HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY HAVE A THREESOME

  • It’s very possible to get your woman to become interested in a threesome.
  • Make sure you are honest with yourself, slowly introduce the idea and find ways to normalize threesomes.
  • Try watching amateur threesome porn together, be careful how you frame it and be prepared to reassure her. 

 

Threesome: the must-have item on basically every guy’s sex bucket list. But how do you get your wife or girlfriend on board with having another woman join you both in the bedroom? How do you even broach the topic in the first place? While that conversation can definitely be a minefield, here are 7 tips and tricks to help it go as smoothly as possible. And hopefully it will end with you in bed with two gorgeous gals, rather than a slammed door or divorce papers.  

1. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

Would she ever ACTUALLY be into it? Is your wife queer or bisexual, or at least bicurious? If not, stop. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. If the only reason she says yes is to please you, it will end in resentment and disaster. And the sex will be lousy, anyway. It sucks, but at that point, you may just have to stick to MFF porn.

2. SLOWLY INTRODUCE THE IDEA

Find ways to introduce the idea without directly asking yet. Start bringing up the idea of a third party joining your sex life without specifically asking your wife for a threesome or even mentioning the word. Start with innocent questions about her fantasies and if they’ve ever involved being with another woman, for example. Ask if she thinks it would be hot if someone was watching you while you have sex. When you eventually do make the ask, the seeds have already been planted and she’s less likely to have a knee-jerk reaction.

3. FIND WAYS TO NORMALIZE THREESOMES

When you read the news, mention the latest celebrity gossip about threesomes. When you’re having a Netflix and chill night, put on shows and movies that portray threesomes as sexy, fun, and satisfying for everyone, and avoid any depictions of threesomes being depraved, shameful, or creating drama.

4. WATCH AMATEUR THREESOME PORN TOGETHER

Watching porn can not only be hot, but in this case it can be a good way to get your partner thinking about – and hopefully turned on by, and thus desiring in real life – a specific new sexual act. Specifically seeing people who look like her rather than plastic porn stars can help normalize it and makes it seem okay for her to do, too. If she prefers written to video, find some first-person sexy stories from women about their threesome adventures.

5. BE CAREFUL HOW YOU FRAME IT

Once you’ve dropped the threesome bomb, your girlfriend or wife might be having some feelings, such as insecurity and concern that she isn’t enough for you. Make sure you are patient with whatever she expresses and hear her out. Don’t dismiss her. And most importantly: provide her with all the reassurance she needs. Emphasize how much you love her, that she is and always will be your #1. Make sure she knows that wanting to have a threesome isn’t about being bored – with her or with your sex life together – but about your bond together, and experiencing something new as a couple. Most of all, reassure her that having a threesome doesn’t have to change anything about your relationship together.

6. BE PREPARED TO REASSURE HER

Make sure all parts of your body get thoroughly dry, especially between your legs. Bacteria thrive in dark, moist areas, so take an extra minute to make sure all moisture gets absorbed.

7. LET HER SET THE GROUND RULES

A threesome will seem a lot less scary to your main squeeze if she has control over what’s happened. Let her decide how far you and she will go for the first time. Give her the option to pull the plug at any moment so she never feels coerced or like she can’t say no. Absolutely give her veto power over any third party you suggest, and if you can, let her pick the first person you bring home together.

Bottom line: Lay the groundwork, go slowly, and make this about you and your girlfriend sharing an experience – not about you getting your dick wet with some strange. You may just end up with the threesome you want, if not the one you deserve.

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