- Believe it or not, there are ways to deal with your asshole of a boss.
- You can kill him with kindness, try to work with other people, or talk to him directly.
- You could also talk to your bosses' superior or start looking for other jobs.
It shouldn’t be as hard as it is to find a boss that you enjoy working under. But for some reason, many bosses are raging assholes. Maybe they’re too focused on their own work, they’re stressed, or they don’t value your contributions to the company. Regardless, that’s no excuse to treat employees like property. So if you’re struggling in the workplace with your boss, here are 5 tips to make your work life just a tad bit more manageable.
1. KILL HIM WITH KINDNESS
If he’s a yeller or arguer, you want to stay cool and collected while talking to him. Make him seem like the hot-headed man that he actually is. Furthermore, give him no reason to ever actually be upset with you. Note, this doesn’t mean be a pushover. Don’t be passive and let him take advantage of you. This simply means you’re always polite when speaking to him and never raise your voice.
2. SEE IF THERE ARE WAYS TO WORK WITH OTHER PEOPLE
Depending on what you do, it may be possible to work more closely with adjacent managers or teams. I used to work at a research hospital and my boss didn’t know my name for about two years. She was… cold… to say the least. I figured out ways to work with other research scientists at the lab on their projects to avoid having to deal with her and her nonsense.
3. TALK TO HIM DIRECTLY
You have to be careful with how you approach him. You don’t want to attack him or put him on the defensive. Just like you learned in 5th grade, use a lot of “I” statements. “I feel that” “I’m struggling with” etc. Give him the opportunity to critique you. Then, you can similarly say what’s been bothering you. “I’ve noticed that you often yell at me for things that are out of my control…”
4. TALK TO HER SUPERIOR
You don’t want to go over your bosses head, calling her evil if she only does a few things periodically that you find infuriating. You also want to talk to her first. But sometimes, it’s necessary to talk to a superior. Odds are, if she’s like this to you, she’s probably treating other people the same way. Whenever I’ve spoken to superiors about bosses who treated me poorly, they were seldom surprised. Everyone knew she was being an ass. I was probably just the first person to say, “I feel undervalued and constantly disrespected.” I also make it clear that I’m not saying these things to get my boss in trouble. In contrast, I’m simply hoping to find some ways to make work more bearable.
5. START LOOKING FOR OTHER JOBS
I understand that it’s difficult to change jobs, and there might be some reasons why you can’t. (Waiting on your pension, need the letter of recommendation, can’t live without the money, etc.) But if you can, start looking for other jobs right now. I have probably half a dozen friends who hate their bosses and always talk about finding other jobs, but never actually put in the work and apply. Don’t just talk about it. You need to do it, and there’s no better time than the present.